How does fear & inherited thinking influence success?

Barry Nicolaou – Motivational Speaker, Founder and Director of Shoe Circle. blog-1

First let’s explain the two concepts.

Fear-based programming (FBP) is acting out of fear for a result that is usually undesired. We act because if we don’t, we’re afraid of what will happen next and how this impact will affect our lives. FBP is also one of the most subtle and destructive forces known to man. It creeps in and takes up residence internally without a great deal of conscious knowledge. It masquerades as,  “we’ve always done it this way” or “we need security” to survive. The scary thing is, our society is either blind to it or it supports it.

Inherited thinking (IT) is thinking which has been passed down from generation to generation. Most of this is good thinking practice – to evaluate, to educate, to love, to gain experience to make mistakes and to learn, however it is also very different for everyone. For example, some generations are taught to hate because they have learnt to hate from a situation or predicament which has lead them to their views. They then pass their dogma down to their children and since parents are the most consistent role models children are exposed to, their views are imprinted on the hearts of their young. There are also less aggressive or subtle ways IT can take place. The largest one of these is negativity and a genuine belief that the mind cannot achieve what the heart desires. For this, we need to break the shell which encapsulates our understanding of what we’re actually able to accomplish.

Cast your mind to the last time you had a negative or doubtful thought. It could have been last month, last week, yesterday or 5 minutes ago or as you’re reading this very sentence. How do we recognise what a negative thought is and more importantly, how can we address it for the greater desire of living a future we truly desire? Let’s look at negativity. A negative thought is anything that makes you feel unworthy, depressed, angry, jealous, self loathing, sad or inadequate. It’s usually a combination of FBP and IT which subconsciously program thoughts through setting limitations to what we can achieve. Studies have shown that for every 1 negative comment absorbed, we need 16 positive influences to counter the mental effect. If this is indeed true, how potent can negativity be to begin with and more importantly, how many lots of 16 do you have stashed away in the form of positive people, places, pictures, mantra’s or situations which can bring your mind back to “anything’s possible” mindset.

Programming the mind to recognise and filter out negativity in the form of images, news, people, video’s, family and friends is of paramount importance if you want the desired mental state needed to fulfil dreams. We simply cannot be bombarded with negativity and live a positive, enriched life.

What does this have to do with running your own business? Whether you’re an entrepreneur, sales manager, blogger, retailer or poet – our state of our mind is directly linked to where our limitations may lie or alternatively the heights we will let ourselves soar to.

Our thoughts at this very moment are creating our reality, we must become masters at directing our thoughts.

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“Cultivate the ability to deal with negative moments and bungee-up to positive actions and thoughts as soon as you feel yourself slipping into negative or doubtful thinking. You must do this with focus and as a conscious decision. Realise the lessons that will be learned from the current situation and take them on board with strategy and humility. If you can pass through these discovery moments, you’ll witness opportunities, the opening of doors and greatness manifest into your reality” 


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